In the past few months, I’ve had a variety of different kinds of messages sent to me from men on my Instagram page. Some of the greetings have started with “Hey beautiful”, “Hey sweetie”, “Hi there gorgeous”, “You’re cute!”, and even a heart emoji. To be honest, I’m really not flattered with this introduction tactic. I mean, it’s clear these men are not messaging me about my content and are looking to talk to me about who-knows-what (but we all know what though, don’t we).
I did open a few of the messages at the beginning because I’m quite a curious person. I also try to not assume anything and I do try to see the good in everyone and everything. However, as suspected, any question that I was asked had nothing to do with my writing or my blog and everything to do with inappropriateness.
These inappropriate messages were quite unappetizing. No, I do not want to see your “thing”. I can assure you that I am absolutely okay with not seeing you do “that”. No, I don’t want to meet you as I have said that I am a happily married mother. Yes, I really am happy with my husband and family. What kind of question is that anyways?
Come on! My Instagram bio on my page is pretty specific as to what I am there for. I write mostly about being an anxious mom. However, since receiving these messages, I have since changed my bio from “Anxious mom” to Anxious wife and mom”. I don’t think I can be any clearer.
WRONG. Apparently there must be a way because the message isn’t getting through. Or is it and these men just don’t care?
In case of the latter, here’s the bottom line:
I am not now nor will I ever be interested in engaging in that kind of conversation with you online, let alone in real life. My husband is aware of every single message that is sent to me and is equally unimpressed. Your messages are ridiculed and then deleted.
I’m not sure where some men got the idea that women like these kinds of raunchy messages. I’ve italicized ‘some’ because I do not want to lump all men into this category. Being married to a man, I know that not all men are like this.
If you want to engage in conversation with a woman, then do so with the same kind of respect you would want someone speaking to your mother, sister, friend, daughter etc. How about showing a little respect and introduce yourself before labeling the woman in question by a beauty standard.
How about starting off with “Hi, I’m so-and-so and I read your blog/read your micro blogs. I have a *insert statement here or *insert question here about *insert topic here. Easy enough, right? One would think.
Since I received my last crude message, I have been declining any message I receive that starts off in one of the above ways before opening. Apparently, once a message is declined, that person is no longer able to message you so that helps in keeping repeat offenders off my messaging board.
To those who are looking to continue sending me these kinds of messages, please kindly refrain from doing so as again, I am a wife and mother and have no interest in your stuff.